Incapable of Looking Backwards

Posted by | June 27, 2014 | Uncategorized | 2 Comments

This has been a common theme in just about all of the Q&As I’ve ever done, and I find it fascinating. It’s one of those questions that I love and hate at the same time.

There is something inside of me that makes completely and utterly incapable of looking backwards.

The answer to these questions is always “no.” I suppose at the same time the answer could very well be “maybe everything,” but I know what the net result has been, and of course I’m very happy.

You always hear people say “I never would have done anything differently, “ but the truth is, you can’t go back and do anything differently.

So all of my optimism is always tempered by a heavy dose of practicality. There is nothing I can go into the past and change, so spending any of my time on “the defense” is something that I’m just not capable of. I only focus on “the offense,” which in this case is the future.

As a matter of fact, if you really break down how I approach business (and, I guess, life, at some level), I’m always looking forward to the next thing. I live my life around the long term future (One day, I’m going to buy the Jets), and the immediate future (I can’t wait to spend next week with my family), and really nothing in between.

I’m just always looking forwards. I spend very little time, looking backwards, and it’s not because of anything other than the fact that I’m just not capable of it. It’s just not how I’m wired.

The only thing that keeps me up at night is, as I get older, what will happen when I’m 80 or 90. When I know that, practically, there just aren’t that many more years to look forward to. When I get to that age, that’s when I fear I might start to get retrospective. Other than that, the future is what gives my life energy. Looking back just isn’t practical.


  • Chris Hemmen

    I wish I would have heard this advice 5 years ago. Since I’m now 28.5 years, I have so much I want to accomplish before I turn 30. I feel that the first eight years of my 20′s were spent tripping over myself, making mistakes, and trying to learn from them. But, now that I’ve sorta found my foundation, I want my roots to dig deep fast so that I can grow in massive/amazing ways. Thanks for this perspective, to keep a forward, not reverse, perspective.

  • Teri Spears

    Thanks once again GV! I have the opposite problem, I can not help but focus on the past. Some how thinking if I reanalize it, I can learn not to make these mistakes. Sometimes when your immediate future is filled with getting away from people who could care less, it may not seem like something to look forward to, so I reminise alot about a happier time. I do not know if this is something I will ever be capable of as things like Pompeii fascinate me, but maybe there is a difference between history and the past. I admire you buddy! Thanks for the tip and I will incorporate this into my mental roladex! lol

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